what if my tulpa wanted to have a career they wanted that is not my career of choice, partner they wanted that is not my partner of choice, or didn't want kids?
Well, there can be differences on many levels. Just because your tulpa is not interested in different career path etc. doesn't mean they're less valid.
Is that... really the best way of handling conflict?
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Well, there can be differences on many levels. Just because your tulpa is not interested in different career path etc. doesn't mean they're less valid.
people have acceptance of different things in life. you can accept the fact that you are outsourcing animal cruelty to butchers, i accept that there are some things that run smoother if i put myself aside
i don't want to put "egocentric" here again because i don't mean it in any way but yeah
people have acceptance of different things in life. you can accept the fact that you are outsourcing animal cruelty to butchers, i accept that there are some things that run smoother if i put myself aside
i don't want to put "egocentric" here again because i don't mean it in any way but yeah
Becoming median is an option, but I'm wondering if you already have that- all of the headmates are ultimately one being, but there's still a little separation here and there
I mean if you're gonna kill them all every time there's a conflict so there's no conflict better to live as a singlet, in my view
This is where I'm stumped- If you don't like a piece of yourself, is it murder to reject it? But on the other hand, why is there anxiety about resetting again? Why desire to stick around for the next generation? Is there no way to revive a previous headmate?
Wouldn't the most selfless act be letting just one tulpa survive and for that one tulpa to life a long and fulfilling life rather than letting generations of tulpas to come and go?
spending time and energy on resolving conflicts and negotiating that brings disappointment from the people that lost the negotiation would make me unhappy
12:02 AM
currently yeah
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is there guarantee you will be the same you tomorrow when you wake up, and not another headmate?
I promise I will always be Ranger, no matter what. Switched-in, in the back, guide writer, the guy eating too much cake, a little curious about writing code, all of that is still me, even when I'm doing things that are similar to my other headmates
I would have to integrate or dissipate to be gone forever(edited)
I was wondering, what is the purpose of your system in the end? If no one survives long enough to develop their own passions, do you all enjoy the physical situation you're in at all? Or are you just perpetuating the survival of a body?
12:04 AM
Ok your answered up here, mb
12:04 AM
Happy that you're happy tho
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Dissipation is not death. It's just not taking certain identity anymore.
I think it depends on the system. On my system that's the case but I don't think it's the case with Okidokime's system'
A long kiss goodnight
I promise I will always be Ranger, no matter what. Switched-in, in the back, guide writer, the guy eating too much cake, a little curious about writing code, all of that is still me, even when I'm doing things that are similar to my other headmates
I would have to integrate or dissipate to be gone forever (edited)
I see dissipation as a final decision. Even if functionality wise we could revive dissipated headmates, choosing to dissipate comes with the expectation no one will dig you up and pull you out of your grave. If nothing else, it's a promise we have to keep to never wake them up
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question, is there a potential situation where you would put system first and break the promise?
you promised a few things about yourself, that you will always be "that". if let's say your SO found out about you doing tulpamancy and asked you to stop being involved in the community, write guides etc, because they would consider it is breaking the relationship, would you stop doing it (breaking the promise you just gave), when the system already planned life with the person and is fully commited? i mean a situation like that
Even as a system that could be classified as median, I can't imagine doing that kind of sacrifice for any partner.
12:13 AM
you are all talking about negotiating between headmates, and you forget that negotiation happens between people in couples too. sometimes people just lose negotiation
12:13 AM
it's a matter of priority
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"it's not a big sacrifice" no it 100% is wtf are you talking about
Your partner should not be telling you to stop your hobbies. One of Rusty’s exes told them to stop doing animal rescue or they’d break up so Rusty broke up with them. That’s toxic and controlling
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you promised a few things about yourself, that you will always be "that". if let's say your SO found out about you doing tulpamancy and asked you to stop being involved in the community, write guides etc, because they would consider it is breaking the relationship, would you stop doing it (breaking the promise you just gave), when the system already planned life with the person and is fully commited? i mean a situation like that
Ah, okay. I see the problem.
I would rather come up with new desires than dissipate myself. If let's say I was into this SO, I would probably break up with her and find someone else. I might be sad about it, but I'll move on and find someone else.
I don't think I'm a completely different person when I change my life goals. I used to be on the Guide Approval Team and I was very interested in recreating it, but as time went by I realized maybe it's for the best it fell apart, at best it needs to be completely rethought.
Hold on I need to catch up
yeah that would be your position, but in this scenario rest of the system wants to stay and says it's not a big sacrifice
@deleted_user_529cfe4c351a - jump
I would have a problem with anyone who wants me to basically dissipate Ranger. I'm still pissed at my mom when she told me that, I wouldn't want to date anyone who told me that
Doing tulpamancy is one of Ranger's favorite things. Telling her to not do those things would imply they don't like her and she has to be someone they like. I'm not okay with that at all
people are staying anonymous here because they don't want other people to find out they are plural
A long kiss goodnight
Ah, okay. I see the problem.
I would rather come up with new desires than dissipate myself. If let's say I was into this SO, I would probably break up with her and find someone else. I might be sad about it, but I'll move on and find someone else.
I don't think I'm a completely different person when I change my life goals. I used to be on the Guide Approval Team and I was very interested in recreating it, but as time went by I realized maybe it's for the best it fell apart, at best it needs to be completely rethought.
Hold on I need to catch up
